Why did God make “having sex” so sacred? Why are we limited to only one partner at a time? Why did He make it a sin to have sex with a third party when you're already married or have a lover? Why do we feel so jealous, angry or mad if our partner had sex with a third party? Why is sex so sacred? I am addicted to sex, and this is my serious problem, and I need a striking answer from the Bible…Thanks!
Stan
sclarke4356@gmail.com
Dear Stan,
From your heart and your mouth came out your feeling that you are so mad and jealous when your partner had sex with another party. That is one of the most important reasons why God limits our sexual relationship. God understands our being, our emotions, our weaknesses, and infirmities.
(Psalms 103:14) “For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.”
Jealousy brought about by the experience of having somebody share the love and attention of your lover grows into hatred towards the third party.
(Proverbs 6:34) “For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.”
This may result into a serious crime!
All over the world, there are cases of murder and homicide because of jealousy. Jealousy will not be felt by anybody without any interfering party that comes in between the sexual relationship of a couple, or lovers.
The Bible tells Christians to have only one sexual partner. It physically fits our being. Your sexual organ can not please two partners at a time.
(Matthew 19:5-6) “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
The verse says: “two or twain shall be one flesh” — not three or four! So, it is prohibited, especially to preachers and ministers, to have more than one wife!
(I Timothy 3:2) “A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach…”
This is contrary to what the polygamous leaders of the Mormons say in their book, “Doctrines and Covenants”
Doctrines and Covenants, pp. 132:161-162 -
"And again, as pertaining to the law of the priesthood -- if any man espouse a virgin, and desire to espouse another, and the first give her consent, and if he espouse the second, and they are virgins, and have vowed to no other man, then is he justified; for he cannot commit adultery with that that belongeth unto him to no one else. And if he have ten virgins given unto him by this law, he cannot commit adultery, for they belong to him, and they are given unto him; therefore is he justified."
The preceding declaration in the book of Mormons is blatantly in contradiction with the Holy Bible. Would you believe in it? GOD FORBIDS!
Whether any Mormon member admits it or not, if you are married to a Mormon man and you share the same man with three other women, it is inevitable that you will feel jealous, one time or another, which feeling may develop later into hatred — that is strictly prohibited among Christians.
(I John 3:15) “Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.”
A sexual relationship is both exciting and sacred. I appreciate your frankness in telling me that you are addicted to sex, because sex excites the senses; and as defined in the dictionary, it is the “highest level of pleasure and feelings” (orgasm); but you must also remember that sexual relationship is sacred and entails many responsibilities towards your partner and yourself. Why? Because it is God’s plan for the continuing process of procreation. It is God’s way of bringing into the earth His children and His ‘seeds’ of righteousness through matrimony. This is the reason why the Bible teaches us of strict measures regarding courtship, marriage, and sexual relationships.
(Hebrews 13:4) “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the immoral and adulterous.” (Revised Standard Version)
It is the very reason why God, during the time of the Israelites, forbade them to marry and have sexual relationship with the Canaanites and other pagan nations that surrounded the people of Israel.
(Deuteronomy 7:1-4) “When the LORD thy God shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou; And when the LORD thy God shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor show mercy unto them: Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.”
Aside from the possibility that marrying them or having sexual relationship with them may cause the Israelites to turn away from the true God, recent archaeological findings have proven that the land of Canaan, where these people lived, was infested with various sexually transmitted diseases! [See Related link]
The Bible teaches a Christian lover to love his sexual partner like the love he has for his own self and body.
(Ephesians 5:28) “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”
Stan, if you love your sexual partner, would you take the risk of infecting her with the deadly AIDS virus that you might acquire from other sexual partners? It is for your good conscience and God-fearing heart to decide righteously. To protect yourself and your partner from the evil and perils of infidelity, I want you to read these verses very carefully:
(Proverbs 5:16-18) “Should thy springs be dispersed abroad, And streams of water in the streets? Let them be for thyself alone, And not for strangers with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed; And rejoice in the wife of thy youth.”(American Standard Version)
And again:
(Proverbs 5:10-11) “Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labors be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed…”
Remember, syphilis is a debilitating disease!
Thanks for writing, and please do not hesitate to write again regarding any more doubts you have of the Bible.
God bless,
EFS
Published on May 23rd, 2007 at esoriano.wordpress.com